You can buy a house, but that doesn’t guarantee that it will be a happy, joyful home. How many couples do you know who have impressive residences but lack inner joy? Whether it is stress related to the marriage or if it is stressful family situation, it can easily intrude and even steal the joy away from a happy home? What’s the point of having all the money in world if you don’t even have the peace of mind to fully enjoy it?
What if all that could change? What if you could have a happy, joyful home where you don’t have to choose between success and joy?
In the Bible, Ephesians 3:20 states:
Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us.
When I apply that scripture to having a happy, joyful home I immediately begin to focus on the word “abundantly” meaning that there is no limit. However, I cannot help but think about all the counseling sessions, especially with husbands and fathers who have somehow been trained to think they have to sacrifice one for the other.
“I would like to spend time with the wife and kids but how are the bills going to get paid?”
“Listen, building wealth comes at a cost and my family needs to understand that my time is limited.”
“My wife knew what she was getting when she signed up marrying a wealthy man.”
Needless to say, they sought counseling because their wives and children have protested to the point where intervention was needed. Yes, they were successful in business, but their family life was falling apart and, ironically, threatening the finances and legacies they worked so hard to establish.
To be fair and honest, it’s not just husbands who feel this way. I meet with a multitude of successful wives who struggle in marriage due to the demands of the corporate C-suite, entrepreneurship and/or having to work two jobs to thrive. They are surprised when I mention that marriage and family run on the very currency that they are lacking- T-I-M-E.
Their marriages are strained due to bringing the laptop to bed, focusing on the phone, social media, etc. while their spouse and children are trying to have a meaningful interaction with them. They are multi-tasking geniuses, but it doesn’t work when all their man and children want is their undivided attention. Often the kids get what they need, and the marriage is one that suffers.
What if it doesn’t have to be that way?
Imagine being able to thrive in finances, marriage and family at the same time? Imagine looking forward to coming home because the home is a joyful, stress free, fun, supporting and loving environment to recharge, relax, and reconnect with your lover and family?
Luke 6:38 provides the mindset shift we need to make this happen:
Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”
Basically, if we measure and plan our time to focus on both business and a happy, joyful home then we can have good return for our labor: money and a happy home where everyone thrives.
“No amount of personal success should ever amount in personal failure at home” – Nathaniel Bronner.
In the following blogs and/or emails, I will present Nine Tips On Having a Happy, Joyful Home that every black couple should follow.