A Marriage Test: How To Tell How Much Your Spouse Really Cares About You
How can you tell if your spouse/partner is really supporting you enough? In times of stress, especially a pandemic, we need our partners to be more supportive than ever. It literally can be the difference between making it work or calling it quits. However, how in the world do we know if we are being supportive enough, especially when most couples don’t talk enough?
Many couples are thriving because they have the support and are actively making life dreams come true, but many marriages and relationships are struggling because that support is lacking. That hurts and can feel miserable when you feel alone in trying to make life dreams one true and holding things down alone and without support.
I want to help you fix that! I have read new research on PPR (Perceived Partner Responsiveness) and PRI (Perceived Responsiveness and Insensitivity scale) for you to discuss with your spouse so can be more in tune with one another’s needs. Take this test and see where you rank and let me know.
1. For the first eight negative things I discuss, it is a rating of “insensitivity”.
a. Rate your partner 0 (not at all) to 5 (completely) for each item and average them out (divide by 8) and come up with a score.
The average score is 1.0, which means that anything higher means that you need to work on being more sensitive to your spouse. If you are close to 1.0 or lower, you are a rock star!
2. For the last eight items I discuss, it is a rating of “responsiveness” to see how well you respond to your partner’s needs.
a. Rate your partner 0 (not at all) to 5 (completely) for each item and average them out (divide by 8) and come up with a score. The average score is 3.5 with higher scores being better.
So, if you score 3.5 of better, your partner feels like you are responsive to his/her needs. If you score lower than 3.5, then you have work to do. This test is not a cause to fight but rather an opportunity to make perfect adjustments to more sensitive and responsive to one you love.
Let me know your scores and good luck. I pray this blesses you and want to hear about it.
P.S.- If you wish for marital support in a positive setting, please feel free to join us on Thursday nights at 9pm. Here is the information for our highly enjoyable marriage class experience.